The Grief of Recognition: When Mothers, Wives, and Women Disappear Into Duty

I always thought grief required a death, a separation, some clear rupture. So when I sat down to write about grief today, I hesitated. What right did I have? But grief, can also be the ache of finally seeing clearly; Of recognizing yourself in the women you once failed to understand. Despite the perfect December … Continue reading The Grief of Recognition: When Mothers, Wives, and Women Disappear Into Duty

The Good Girl Trap: How I Learned My Anger Was Never About Them

If you asked someone about me, they would tell you I am aloof, quiet, serious, soft-spoken, docile, and dumb. They might not mean the same thing, but all these adjectives point to one fact—I am not someone who confronts, fights, or argues. That's just not me. But there's one thing I have done several times … Continue reading The Good Girl Trap: How I Learned My Anger Was Never About Them

The Lost Decade: How Depression Kept Me From Growing Up

I turned 38 last week. To be honest, I am too ashamed to tell people my real age. Nope, don't get me wrong. I enjoy getting old. I have 70% grey coverage, so telling my real age might actually make me look younger in public's eyes. Still, I am never able to speak it aloud. … Continue reading The Lost Decade: How Depression Kept Me From Growing Up

What do you do the entire day?

I thought this was the patented question meant for homemakers. Very misplaced and ignorant, but a popular one nevertheless. My mother has been one, and I always felt sad for her, hence decided, whatever happens, I cannot be a homemaker. Not because it's easy, lazy, or comfortable, but because it's the hardest thing to do … Continue reading What do you do the entire day?

Leave Your Poor Designer Alone. Will Ya?

Introduction It’s 5:45 PM in the Silicon Valley of India, the clock is ticking with the same ruthlessness that Cinderella experienced during the royal ball. If not booked within the next five minutes, you are damned in this cubicle for eternity (read 7 o’clock IST) because you won’t be able to call a ride, thanks … Continue reading Leave Your Poor Designer Alone. Will Ya?

Breaking the Mold: Rediscovering ‘Tamasha’ and Choosing Your Own Path

To each his own. Eight years ago, when the movie "Tamasha" was released, I watched it in the theatre and found it difficult to sit through the movie. It wasn’t because I could connect with it at a very personal level and I felt sad, but it was because I was bored to death. The … Continue reading Breaking the Mold: Rediscovering ‘Tamasha’ and Choosing Your Own Path

Raw roads

घरों में झाडू, पोंछा, बर्तन का काम करती है वो, सुबह अपनी घर का सारा काम कर अपनी बड़ी बेटी को हज़ारों हिदायतें दे, दूधमुही छुटकी (ऐसा घरवाले पिछले चार साल से बता रहे हैं, औटीज़्म  के बारे में कहाँ किसी ने सुना है! )को अक्सर स्मार्टफोन में व्यस्त रहने वाली बड़ी बेटी के बराबर … Continue reading Raw roads